‘Inder’s one minute wins’ for CFS 001: “When you feel you can’t do something, focus on something you can do”
If you spent a lot of time ‘stuck in a rut’ focussing on all the things you haven’t done and can’t do, then this one’s for you.
From time to time, I find myself stuck in a rut. I’m juggling running a busy clinic, writing and studying and it often becomes very overwhelming. Sometimes I just think ‘Arghhh I can’t do this’ and this feeling often coincides with a creeping back of some very mild CFS symptoms like fatigue and brain fog.
If you have chronic fatigue or struggle with chronic illness, there can often be a giant chasm between what you want to do and what you feel you can do. And that’s Ok, because sometimes you won’t be able to jump over that chasm, but some days you may be able to hop right over it.
The important thing is to just accept and to surrender. Disappointment, sadness and frustration just make things worse. As Ashok Gupta says, “What resists persists”.
Whenever you’re feeling stuck and frustrated, I would encourage you to surrender the pressure you are placing on yourself and just focus on what you can do rather than what you can’t.
For example, ‘I don’t feel like I’m able to research today, so I am going to do something I can like clean my office.’
You may want to jump out of bed and clean the house, but you can’t. But you can make a list of things to do, or listen to an audiobook while you lay in bed?
So just focus on what you can do and let go of what you can’t.
Don’t worry about what you think you’re missing out on because chances are the only person it really matters to is you.
Just trust and let go, and know you will soon get there.
There will always be opportunities to do things (especially cleaning the house;).
Wishing you well on your path to health,