Inder’s Quick Win #003: Working a ‘Dead End Job’?
Do you ever feel like you’re not living your potential? Do you feel you’re always taking one step forward and two steps back?
I’ve been there. I often wished, I had a well-known medical disease rather than an invisible illness like CFS which left me ‘trapped’ inside myself.
I would often think ‘what’s the point of living if you can’t live your potential?’
As I began to feel better, a family member suggested it would be a good idea to do some voluntary work in something I was interested in.
I felt deep within me, that one day I would be working in neurology, so I decided to work for the Alzheimer’s society, helping patients take part in activities and feeding them lunch.
It was a ‘culture shock’ to say the least as I had never been exposed to somebody with dementia before. But once I found my stride, it was magical.
I met wonderful kind and generous colleagues and even developed special bonds with the patients. At times, I felt I had more in common with an Alzheimer’s patient than a normal person! We both knew what it felt like to feel trapped and frustrated by our inability to express ourselves.
Then, I briefly worked as a hospital porter. There I was once a budding doctor, relegated to a hospital porter! But you know what, I absolutely loved it!
To just be in a hospital environment, filled me with excitement, freedom and joy.
I felt so lucky! Once again, I shared a connection with kind and friendly colleagues and patients. It was extremely cathartic (and I got to laugh. A lot!)
But after a while, as my health began to improve, I grew frustrated with my situation as I was surrounded by people of similar age and backgrounds who were already becoming specialist doctors. It was pretty soul destroying at times, but it reminded me of something I was once told.
Where we are right now, is where we are meant to be. The why is for you to determine, but we must remind ourselves that we are on our own paths, in our own lanes and looking around comparing ourselves to others only distracts us and takes away vital energy.
Looking back, the ‘why’s’ are very clear. I was meant to be working at that hospital because it was an integral part of my healing process. I met lots of great people, made new friends and most importantly, forgot about my symptoms and began to enjoy life again.
Assuming everything happens for a reason, what would the reason(s) be for where you are right now? What are the lessons? What have you learned from the experience?
So if you’re stuck and frustrated working a dead end job, try not to worry about others and focus on yourself. Trust in the process and ask yourself why?
Wishing you well on your path to health,
P.S. If you’re feeling stuck and are ready to find the people who can help you on your journey back to health, you may find this article useful.