Inder’s Quick Win #003: Working a ‘Dead End Job’?
Do you ever feel like you are not living your potential? Do you feel you always seem to be taking one step forward and two steps back?
I’ve been there. I often wished, I had a well-known medical disease rather than an invisible illness like CFS which left me ‘trapped’ inside myself.
I would often think ‘what’s the point of living if you can’t live your potential?’
As I began to feel better, a family member suggested it would be a good idea to do some voluntary work in something I was interested in.
I felt deep within me, that one day I would be working in neurology, so I decided to work for the Alzheimer’s Society, helping patients take part in activities and feeding them lunch.
It was a ‘culture shock’ to say the least as I had never been exposed to somebody with dementia before. But once I found my stride, it was magical.
I met wonderful kind and generous colleagues and even developed special bonds with the patients. At times, I felt I had more in common with an Alzheimer’s patient than a normal person! We both knew what it felt like to feel trapped and frustrated by our inability to express ourselves.
Then, I briefly worked as a hospital porter. There I was once a budding doctor, relegated to being hospital porter! But you know what, I absolutely loved it!
To just be in a hospital environment, filled me with excitement, freedom and joy.
I felt so lucky! Once again, I shared a connection with kind and friendly colleagues and patients. It was extremely cathartic (and I got to laugh. A lot!)
But after a while, as my health began to improve, I grew frustrated with my situation as I was surrounded by people of similar age and backgrounds who were already becoming specialist doctors. It was pretty soul destroying at times, but it reminded me of something I was once told.
Where we are right now, is where we are meant to be. The why is for you to determine, so it is important that we must remind ourselves that wa are our own path, in our own lane and comparing ourselves only distracts us and takes away our own vital energy.
Looking back, the ‘why’s’ are very clear. It became very obvious to me that I was meant to be working at that hospital because it was integral part of my own healing process. I met lots of great people, made new friends and most importantly, forgot about my symptoms and began to enjoy life again.
Assuming everything happens for a reason, what would the reason(s) be for ‘being’ where you are right now? What are the lessons to be learned? What have you learned from the experience?
So if you feel stuck and frustrated at what you see is working in a ‘dead end job’, do not worry about others or what they think and focus on yourself. Trust in the process and ask yourself why am I feeling like this?
Wishing you well on your path to health,
P.S. So if you are feeling stuck and are ready to find the people who can help you on your journey back to health, you may find this article useful.